I’m super excited to share this week’s episode of JRCtv, where my fiance Jairek, will share excellent advice and techniques on better communication between men and woman, specifically on the topic of why women vent, why it’s important for women to vent, and most importantly, how you can be their hero when they do!
On his blog, you can actually download helpful (and I mean SUPER helpful) tips on the best way to communicate with your woman who needs to vent AND how to communicate with your man when you just need him to listen!
On that note, let’s highlight a few major differences between men and women to better understand communication between men and women whether they are dating or married!
Understanding these little love nuggets will not only help you find the love that you are looking for, but it will help existing relationships grow, strengthen, and become ever-lasting.
So here we go:
If there’s one thing men love to do, it’s to fix things. If there’s a problem, he has a solution. If you have a problem, he wants to fix it. In fact “just listening” and not doing anything, makes a man’s brain melt. In relationships (because he loves his woman so much), a man will hear a problem and immediately want to fix it, especially when you (whether wife or girlfriend) are sad, upset, or frustrated. Know that him wanting to fix it, isn’t that he doesn’t understand (or isn’t trying to), it’s that he wants to do anything in the world to make his woman happy. Remember, an unhappy woman is cancer to a man’s soul. A man would die to make a woman happy.
Women love to connect. Rather, woman NEED to connect as it’s what allows a woman to trust. If you do not communicate with her, she doesn’t feel she cannot trust you, which is exactly why we share so much. Women will often simply share what’s on their mind, to let go of the many things that affected them emotionally (on any level) throughout the day. While stockpile thoughts, feelings, and emotions, eventually they will overflow much like a bucket would overflow if filled to high.
For a woman to empty her bucket of emotions, thoughts or feelings is the greatest relief and provides a sense of calmness, especially when it’s someone close to her that let’s her do so. This is why woman typically vent, or babble (as I often do), or talk for hours and hours, sometimes with no one specific points, just many random thoughts. A woman feels most comfortable, happy, and trusting when she can share her feelings freely.
Similar to how men want to protect woman by solving our problems or ‘fixing it’, women want to connect by sharing, talking, or venting about anything that may have happened since the last time she was able to share, talk or vent. These are MAJOR differences as men may think a woman may need help, when actually she just wants him to listen.
One important thing for women and men to remember is that we both must CLEARLY explain at the very beginning of any vent session whether there is a call to action such as “fix it” or “just listen”. Likewise, it’s important to understand the best time and place to vent or share with your man and I can tell you one thing, it’s never while he’s driving or when he just got home from work.
In Jairek’s blog, make sure to get his relationship game-changers “10 insanely valuable love tips” simply by dropping your name and email in the box below his video!
Hope you enjoy!
Sending lots of love,