Ask yourself: What is it you are focusing on or thinking about?
Focus on what makes you happy. Think about all the things for which you are grateful.
When it comes to relationships, it’s almost as if some people are walking on rainbows while others are complaining about not being able to find the pot of gold. We are all humans, we are all deserving of love, we are all capable of loving another, yet why is it some people have GREAT relationships that illuminate hearts while others have seemingly disappointing relationships which make our hearts hurt for them? There isn’t one answer to this, but there are a millions reasons. And one reason is this:
Do you focus on what makes you happy or what makes you unhappy?
People who seem to have a perfect dating life or marriage, surely have their ups and downs too. No relationships is “perfect”. What’s a “perfect relationship” anyway? The difference is what they focus on, and what filter they are using when it comes to looking at their own relationship. The choose to see their relationships filled with Love rather than Ego.
When we let Ego be the driver of our lives instead of Love, we only focus on the negative. This is like cancer. It spreads. It deteriorates. It kills our love and our relationships. When we lead with Love, we focus only on that which we love and that which allows us TO LOVE.
Next time you feel upset, frustrated, or hurt, do yourself a favor and tune in to what it is you are really focusing on? Are you focusing on what is or what isn’t? What’s there or what’s missing? What makes you happy or what makes you sad?
Then immediately forget about all the things that are making you unhappy and focus on all the things that make you happy, with gratitude. Make this a ritual you do each and everyday, especially when Ego tries to sneak in and steal the show.
Lastly remember, you choose the author of your love story… will it be Ego or Love?