Are you ready to find a deep connection and commit to someone special this year? As we step into the New Year, this time holds the energy of infinite possibilities for matters of the heart. Absolutely anything is possible this year, and the way you feel will determine the outcome. This is one of the most empowering and impactful ways I help my clients open up to attracting a relationship! My intention for you is to step into this year feeling confident, free, and excited for what’s possible for you.
Here are 5 ways to prep your heart for love in the New Year:
1- Shower yourself with love.
It’s true, when we fall in love with everything about ourselves, even the parts of us we deem “unworthy” we remember how truly lovable and worthy we actually are. When you feel deep appreciation for yourself, you radiate confidence and become magnetic! That confidence will mirror back to you those who also see your value and want to adore you.
2- Forgive and move on from the past.
While it may feel tricky to think about forgiving some of your ex’s, forgiveness is not about validating disrespectful actions, rather it’s about freeing yourself from all the weight you’ve been carrying. When we harbor anger and resentment, we bring it into our future relationships. When I work with my private clients on this, I have them do the following: Make a list of who you need to forgive from your dating past, what you need to forgive them for, and any lessons you’ve learned from the experience. Forgiveness is truly freeing! You can even write them a letter (no need to actually give it to them) to signify the freedom you are choosing to feel!
3- Get very clear on what your deal breakers are.
Although I don’t want you to spend a lot of time focusing on what you don’t want, as this is about moving forward, it’s important to be clear on what your non-negotiables are in a relationship. That way you can hold your relationships to that standard moving forward, and recognize any red flags as they come up.
4- Get very clear on what you DO desire.
Think expansively! What do you truly desire in a relationship? What’s important to you? What would your ideal relationship feel like? What would you do together? As you get clear, you can even begin to visualize this relationship finding you as you generate the feelings of it. Visualization is a powerful practice for manifestation!
5- Elevate your beliefs.
If you noticed yourself saying “there are zero good men in my city!” in the past to your girlfriends, you’ll want to begin thinking more expansively. Start feeding your mind with thoughts of “There are amazing men everywhere I go!” and become committed to believing that. Then, start looking for evidence to support that belief. I encourage you to list out any other beliefs you have that aren’t serving you. As you get your mind a lift, you will start to shift what you see in your reality.
6- Find gratitude for the love you have!
Write down all the ways you are loved in your current life. It could be a family member, friend, or even your loving pet. Get into a state of deep gratitude for the love you already have, and you will become a magnet for more.
7- Stop looking for it + go enjoy your life.
Your mind may have a field day with this one at first, but start to claim that love is finding YOU, and that you don’t need to search for it. It is finding you now! Keep reiterating this and remind yourself that searching high and low for it in the past hasn’t worked. When you become present and allow yourself to be in joy, the highest on the emotional scale, magic happens! Your life is happening right now and you deserve to feel good.
If you’re reading this, I know that great love is meant for you in your life. The more you practice an implement the above steps, the more freedom you will feel now, and the quicker you will find yourself snuggled up with someone epic who adores you! In the meantime, remind yourself you are whole on your own. There is nothing for you to fix or change about yourself in order to be loved. You are worthy of it as you are now.
Amanda Marit is a Spiritual Life Coach, awakening and guiding hearts into their highest potential for love + bliss. After years of searching for love from the outside world, she found herself in a continuous cycle of negative dating patterns. After hitting a breaking point, she woke up to the knowing that what she needed most was her own love, and once she gave it to herself everything in her life transformed. Through stepping into her own journey of self-love and self-worth, she now teaches + coaches women all over the world in matters of the heart.
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