Throughout life we’ve continuously been told to put our best foot forward. While there’s wisdom in this mantra, I believe putting our most authentic foot forward is the real game changer, especially when it comes to the world of dating.
Wanting to be liked is a universal desire – we all yearn to be accepted.
Let’s just go ahead and accept that part of ourselves right now so we can move on, shall we?
With that said, being mindful when this longing starts rearing its pesky little head and taking us away from our true selves, is incredibly powerful in it of itself. It is when we begin to construct and mold ourselves into something and someone we’re not, that we begin to shift away from that soulful connection. We may say or do something we think will gain the approval of our date – knowing full well that it’s now who we are or what we’re truly about. While we may “win them over” for the moment, or even the night, the potential for that sacred connection moves further and further away as our true essence is masked by a contrived and artificial version of ourselves.
Now, I’m not proposing to lay it all out on the table on the first date (I believe a dash of mystery is a-okay) – yet to simply make the commitment to fully embrace, honor and present the most authentic version of yourself.
Not only is this form of radical authenticity highly attractive, it also allows you to quickly cut through the bs and stop wasting your time.
You’ll know it’s time to move on when you boldly present your truth and the other person just isn’t digging your vibe. Trust in that – always.
Because at the end of the day, there’s that glorious someone out there who not only digs your vibe, but is completely and utterly enthralled by it…and that’s where the true magic lies.
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