So you’re having trouble finding a good quality guy. You’re asking yourself why can’t I find any good guys?! Are there any good guys still out there!? I’m here to tell you, it’s not them, it’s you… and the great news is it’s totally fixable and that’s what I intend to do. P.s. you are still AWESOME!
So here are Three Reasons why you cannot find a good guy or why you may think you have the worst luck with men.
1. You’re dating the same guy over and over. Figuratively, you’re dating the same guy every time. He’s the one who is always out having a good time with his friends at the bars and clubs on the weekends. In fact, when he takes you out it always ends up in meeting up with his buddies at the bar later that night. He’ll always go the distance for his friends, but hardly for you.
Here’s the solution: Stop dating within your comfort zone. The reason you’re struggling is because you quickly latch on to what you already know. You have to expand your mind and options. What you think you’re attracted to is a disaster waiting to happen. What’s out there are men you didn’t even know you were attracted to which are so much more loving, caring, and ambitious. The best part, they are looking for someone just like you.
2. Your expectations are set way too high. It’s just as important to know what you want, as it is to know what’s asking and expecting way too much. Often times, girls complain about how her guy won’t ‘just listen to me’. Here’s the thing, he’s not your girlfriend. He’s your boyfriend. Your girlfriends are the ones you can vent to. Another thing I commonly hear is “why isn’t he texting me?” Are you expecting texts everyday too? Unfortunately, that’s asking a bit much as well. Remember, woman need connection way more than men do, so you cannot expect him to connect with you on the reg especially if there’s no point. Do you really want a relationship solely based on texts anyway!?
Here’s the solution: Your expectations of your girlfriends should not be the same for your boyfriend. Need to vent, grab a bite to eat with a girlfriend or go for a nice long jog to burn off the steam. Expecting a text? Try not expecting a text, that way when you do get one you’re excited and happy (not upset or mad at him for not texting you). If you’re dying to hear from him, give him a call and make plans with him.
3. Your dating guys at the wrong stage in life. Find yourself dating those outrageously fun, passionate, and wild guys? Good times right? That was until they broke your heart. Or maybe it’s the guys who aren’t up for anything, know what they like, and want it their way… Maybe that started to bother you a little in the end. The reason being is they are in the wrong stage in life for a man. They aren’t ready to settle down when you are, or they don’t want to try new things all the time, when you do.
Solution: Understand there are various stages of a mans life that they go through. Whether that’s young and wild, or relaxed and comfortable, you have to decide what kind of relationship you want with a man and where your man is in his life before you move forward. The easiest way to find out where they are at or what they want in a relationship, just ask. Directly. The second easiest way, read “The Amazing Development of Men” by Alison Armstrong.
Make sense? Ready to make a change? Leave some feedback and let me know your thoughts!
With much love,